They say u have a mid life crisis when u turn 40. I’d be lying if I claimed not to have gone through one myself. I couldn’t quite grasp this term in my 20s and 30s, thinking why would someone have a crisis at 40? By then, life would be set, and I’d have exactly what I had envisioned. That is precisely the root of the crisis. The chasm between what you had imagined life to be and what it turns out to be is the crucible where the crisis dwells. It swells and subsides periodically; but, it’s important to remember that you, alone can control the intensity and existence of the crisis. Much like in school, you can focus on the 95 points you scored, or the 5 you lost. Inevitably, first my mind wreaked havoc on me - all the things I had *ASSUMED* I would have by 40 that were now amiss came flashing into my head. I didn’t have a spouse, or children, a company listed on the stock exchange, a dream home, and yes, that island in Hawaii now seemed far out of reach. Had I failed? Had I not lived u